I believe in touch. I believe that a physical, tactile relationship with other trans bodies
is what I need to ground myself in my own transness. To feel the weight of another trans
body against mine, for them to trust me in holding their weight that knowing I won’t perceive their weight as a baggage, but as a grounding factor.
To remind me that I am alive and that they are too.
I can feel our hearts beating again. <This form of trust demands for slowness - no
rushing - not in the way this society demands us to consume one another>
This is not about scratching surfaces
This is about digging in deeper with our fingers,
knees, thighs, mouths, shoulders, tummies,
and knowing when to stop.
an excerpt from C+nto & Othered Poems by Joelle Taylor.
There is a strictness in the expression and consciousness, especially when performing
as/for cis(gender). They pay attention to the ways their body orientates itself;
the way it falls into corners, edges and flat surfaces.The way it adjusts and postures.
In early 2022, I invited folks within my immediate queer networks to take part in an activity, exploring gestures of intimacy and the ways we negotiate proximity and boundaries in our relationships. What do we actively exchange in these quieter forms of exchanges? Do we prioritise who and what we should?
some prompts: mutuality, entangled, complexed, proximity, hold, safer, love, difficult,
revision, trusting, held, weight, allowances, adjustment, redo, warmth, snug, assurance,